Wednesday, January 7, 2009

The Past

Meg: My main goal is be a NORMAL little kid! That's ENOUGH!!! I do want to help other kids that have RAD.

When I was in FOSTER CARE people touched my private parts, people let me hit my HEAD, they beat me, the bad FM beat my head, locked me in a closet, made me SLEEP in a bathtub and on a rug by a door, and my sister tried to drown me when I was a baby. It wasn't OK!!!!!! I had a bad life. It was really, really hard to take care of myself.

My Mom tells me my past does not define me . I think she's right!!!


Today is a new day. I have a safe home and a Mom that LOVES me no matter what I do.

Sincerely

J


18 comments:

Corrine said...

J, I know you have heard this a gazilion times, BUT..you are so brave. Sharing all this. Good AND bad! I hope you realize what you are teaching us all. Foster/adoptive/and biological parents. YOU ARE AN AMAZING kid!And, I hope you never get sick of hearing it, and believe it everyday!
Do you ever get invited to speak at adoptive/foster parent classes? I don't know if they do that where you live...they do offer it here in Maine. It is helpful for us to know the good things that work, and the bad things that DO NOT!! Gives us the opportunity to learn from you.
Talk to your Mom about this possibility. Tell everyone that their are kids out there mistreated. And that THEY ALSO can find forever homes!!!

Sheri said...

Wow. Once again you reduce me to tears. I love that you feel safe enough to share this not only with mom and the therapists but with us.

I want to give you a give hug!

Kristina P. said...

J, you amaze and inspire me so much. I am going to share your strength with the kids I work with.

Ashley said...

Precious J,

I'm sorry I haven't written in a little while- but I promise, I read every day. I came back to your blog today to listen to your great music (I had never heard the first song before I visited your page.)

I also found more pieces of your story. I am amazed over and over at how much you and your Mom have gone through together and what an expressive little girl you are with SO much courage.

Light, love and energy

Ashley

ChrissiD said...

I am so proud of you to tell all people what happened to you and I know it is not easy to talk about those terrible things...You made me cry again when I`ve read your blog..My mom came also in my room and asked me what my problem would be so I translated your post to her and she had also tears in her eyes...You move so many hearts with your story by only writing it down...I am so proud of you..
Love, Miss Chrissi

ChrissiD said...

I am so proud of you to tell all people what happened to you and I know it is not easy to talk about those terrible things...You made me cry again when I`ve read your blog..My mom came also in my room and asked me what my problem would be so I translated your post to her and she had also tears in her eyes...You move so many hearts with your story by only writing it down...I am so proud of you..
Love, Miss Chrissi

ChrissiD said...

I am so proud of you to tell all people what happened to you and I know it is not easy to talk about those terrible things...You made me cry again when I`ve read your blog..My mom came also in my room and asked me what my problem would be so I translated your post to her and she had also tears in her eyes...You move so many hearts with your story by only writing it down...I am so proud of you..
Love, Miss Chrissi

reikichris said...

J, As I told you at lunch today, you are a VERY brave young lady. I am so proud of you!!! You are helping so many people - more than we can count. It is awesome ... your helping words are going around the world :)

Love,
Chris

The Cunninghams said...

You are so right! What a strong girl you are!! You are so lucky that you have a strong momma now too! She can really help you to use your strength the right way... did you know that when you feel grouchy or mad sometimes you can make yourself feel better by smiling? Its true, try it today if you feel icky or maybe try it on your mom! It can't be just one smile, you have to try and smile a lot even if you don't feel like it! but, I bet you can do it!

Linda B. said...

Hi J, With almost all of us telling you how brave you are for sharing your life with us and teaching us about our kids I thought I'd look up the definition of brave. What I found is truely what I think fits you. I looked at many different definitions and they all included: displaying courage, to face courageously, to dare or challenge. J, I see you courageously facing your RAD and challenging everyone who did bad things to you. By teaching us, you are telling those people who did bad things that they can't change who were meant to be. You are a stronger person with a beautiful soul that is shining! You go girl!

motherissues said...

J, when I was MUCH older than you are now I had someone do bad things to me and I was afraid and angry for a long time. Eventually I understood that I get to define myself and what happened to me or what someone hurtful thought about me doesn't make me who I am. I'm so proud to see you following the path to becoming a normal kid. It does take work, but I believe you're doing an amazing thing in telling your story and explaining who you have been to people who can learn from you and your story.

Please ask your mom to show you pictures of my pets. I put pictures up today especially so that you and she could see them. It's ok if you think Puddin is cuter than our dog, though!!

waldenbunch said...

Dear J,thank you for answering me. I'm going to tell you about my birth parents, I cant say what really happened because I was only two years old,but I can say what they did to me.My birth parents took drugs and drank while they were pregnant with me.Todd, my birth father had to go to jail a couple of times.After I was adopted I did really bad things to mommy. I scratched,kicked,bit,spit,hit and screamed at mommy. Not any more, yours truly Stephanie.THANK YOU!!!!!!!

Kelly said...

I don't really know you but I am so proud of you and who you are becoming. You are Awesome J. Your story brings tears to my eyes but thoughts of you bring a smile to my face. :)

Torina said...

You are so brave for being able to write about what happened to you in the past. My kids have a really hard time with that. They have nightmares and are afraid at night and sometimes during the day but are still afraid to talk about it. Sometimes, I think that once you talk about something, it is like you can set it free and not have it stay in your head all the time. You are a strong kid. Keep up all your hard work!

jenniebee said...

J - you are such a great kid! And you are so strong now! Forever and ever you will know that you are brave and you are strong and that having a mommy who loves you makes you even stronger - strong and brave enough to do anything you ever want to do!

I wish I was as brave as you!

jenniebee

Denise said...

J, I got tears in my eyes when I read your post - sad tears for what happened to you, and happy tears about how brave you are. I think your mom is right about the past not defining who you are today. A lot of people don't learn that until they're grown up.

My son, JJ, heard that you had a blog, and he asked if he could start one, too! He was adopted, too, and is also 8. He wondered if you two might be the same age! He'll be 9 in June. He isn't as good as you are on the computer, but he's working hard to get his blog started.

Denise

Jo said...

J, it makes me feel so sad to think that anyone could hurt your beautiful self. I am amazed and so proud of you for being brave enough to tell the truth. I am praying it will help you heal, now that it isn't a secret and you see how much people still love you, no matter what. Keep writing, keep believing. You amaze me!

Virginia said...

You're a nice kid, J.

:)